High potency shadow work is the missing piece in your quest for a life that sets you on fire.
You’ve probably read a bunch of self-development books, sat in plant medicine ceremonies, gone to therapy, tried breathwork, affirmations and journalling.
You’ve meditated and reparented your inner chid.
You’ve learnt about the importance of nervous system regulation.
But despite all the good intentions and energy that you’ve put into fulfilling your potential…
… You just can’t seem to shift some repeating patterns that drain your energy and leave you feeling frustrated.
The patterns take many forms:
☉ cycles of burnout
Saying yes to what drains you, while your own longings wait quietly at the back of the line, leaving you feeling empty.
☉ imposter syndrome
You can’t shake the feeling that you’re not not good enough, so you avoid opportunities and stay small.
☉ intrusive mind gremlins
The thought you don’t want to think keeps looping, louder each time you try to push it away.
☉ no map, no compass
Everyone else seems to have a calling, a passion. You just feel like you’re treading water.
☉ creative constipation
You can feel the book, the business, the offering inside you, but every time you try to begin, you get stuck.
☉ therapy fatigue
You’ve gone deep into your story. But some patterns just haven’t shifted and you’re bored of watching yourself repeat them.
☉ rampent perfectionism
You’re a deeply creative being, but you never quite find that sense of flow and play that you crave. You’re plagued by not-enoughness.
☉ procrastination paralysis
You put it off, then hate yourself for it, then avoid it even more until the adrenaline-fuelled deadline frenzy. Rinse and repeat.
If these patterns were simply a matter of being more disciplined or gaining more insight, your efforts would have paid off by now.
So why haven’t they shifted?
Because most of us haven’t been taught what the founding pioneers of psychology understood very well: that human beings are not rational creatures driven by conscious intention alone.
We’re much weirder than that.
We humans have powerful, unconscious forces within us (aka the shadow) that shape our decisions long before we realise what’s happening.
Trying to change these unconscious forces with most self-development tools is like trying to row a boat upstream.
You might make progress for a while. But eventually, you wind up exhausted and somehow back where you started.
This is where Existential Kink comes in.
Existential Kink is a rapid method of making the unconscious, conscious, by acknowledging that all of us walk around with taboo, shadowy desires for painful and hard things like rejection, humiliation and failure.
Until we bring these shadow desires into awareness, we continue to magnetise the very “bad” things that we claim not to want.
But when we celebrate these freaky desires, we free up tonnes of energy, dissolve the pattern and become wondrously unhinged beacons of spiritual liberation.
This workshop is for you if you want to:
Dissolve patterns that have been quietly running your life
Laugh at what used to torture you
Unlock the hidden forces that turn pain, frustration, and stuckness into fuel for aliveness
Liberate creative potential that’s been trapped in hesitation, perfectionism, or fear
Experience life as the spiritual caress of a devoted lover instead of a gruelling battle
Wake up with red hot gratitude instead of a vague sense of impending doom
This workshop includes:
A plain-language explanation of Existential Kink and how to start using it in your life straight away
The most common ways I see EK misunderstood or misused, and how to avoid turning powerful shadow work into self-blame, bypass, or stagnation
How EK fits within depth psychology and alchemical models of transformation
A guided Existential Kink meditation to help you experience the work directly, so you leave knowing how to return to the practice in your own time
Existential Kink Shadow Work 101
£20.00
Wednesday, 18 February 2026
18:00 - 20:00 GMT (2 hours)
Held on Zoom. Replay sent out after event.